Psychologist Dolgov: you can’t admit to cheating, even if the partner’s suspicions are justified
Candidate of Medical Sciences, clinical psychologist Denis Dolgov gave unexpected advice to people who cheated on their permanent partner or spouse. About this he wrote in your Telegram channel.
According to Dolgov, if there is a desire to continue the relationship, one should not admit to cheating, so as not to cause severe psychological trauma to the partner. “Even if the partner has reasonable suspicions, keep quiet like a partisan. As long as you stand your ground, there is some hope that this did not happen, ”he said. The psychologist added that in this case, the deceived person turns on the mechanisms of psychological defense, and the reaction to the controversial situation becomes less acute.
Even if the traitor was forgiven, and the union was saved, it is difficult to recover from the blow, Dolgov warned. “I have a lot of clients who “forgave” their husband’s betrayal, but suffer from traumatic memories for years, or even decades. I am especially surprised by the characters who confess to infidelity almost on their own initiative, demonstrating their “honesty” by this, ”he said.
Dolgov is sure that in the case of betrayal, honesty is harmful. “Better from such honesty will not be for anyone in any development of events. This is one of the few cases when a lie can really be to the rescue, ”he concluded.
Previously, author and host of the cheating podcast She Wants More, Jo Piazza, cited boredom during sex with a regular partner as one of the main reasons that pushes women into adultery. Piazza’s interlocutors also told her that they started an affair because they had lost mutual understanding with a partner, they wanted to experience the thrill, and also because it became very easy to do this thanks to modern technology.