I don’t remember what we ate, but I do remember that the four of us were at home and it was a weekday. The television news talked about the trans law and adults, convinced of our modernity when it comes to educating on these and other issues, We thought it convenient to turn the news into a topic of conversation. It was then that her daughter, with her 15 years of life, decided to speak.
“Let’s see, it’s that we confuse gender with sex. And this is not about a man or a woman, there are cis people, trans people and non-binary peoplethat we have given it today in class”.
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We were about to close the conversation due to our ignorance, but the teenager, knowing that the bait had been thrown, got up from the table, went to her backpack and took out the notes. She then began a disquisition that she brought freshly baked from the institute that took her time. Faced with our nuances and some other doubt, she did a little as usual. He looked at us with the face of “mother of beautiful love, with these oxen I have to plow”put the notes away and continued eating, thus shelving the talk.
After that very lively lunch I went without saying a word to the computer and looked for some information about all that. Since then I know that I am a cis woman and that non-binary people “do not feel identified with the masculine or feminine gender and they build their identity outside the binary logic of the cisnormative system according to which biological sex and gender identity coincide.” I also had to read it several times to understand it.
The Minister of Equality has pronounced the word “acuerarse” in an appearance. I asked some of my friends and they had never heard such a term. I do, but not because I’m very smart, but because the verb appeared on several of the T-shirts of those attending the 8-M demonstration. The verb was printed on the chest and also the meaning, according to the Royal Spanish Academy: “Support”. I like the word because I like the word body.
My friend Marta believes that the minister should speak so that most people understand her and that is why she is not convinced about the ‘agreement’
my friend marthawho writes in this newspaper, believes that the minister should speak so that most people understand her and that is why she is not convinced about the gathering. I tell him that I agree with the first thing, but given this fact, absolutely anecdotal, better curiosity than mockery, it’s never too late to learn and blah, blah. She, who is educated and knows that I can get very heavy with depending on what things, tells me: “Well, that’s also true.”
Because the language that is used today in certain conversations about feminism and sexuality is complicated. And it catches us all older, all and all. I, who laughed so much at the unfolding, I check my 47 that for those who come after it is normal. Just open your eyes and ears. That it is not necessary to buy the merchandise from them, but it is convenient to know what what they sell consists of.
“It is not necessary to buy their merchandise, but it is convenient to know what they sell”
Because living anchored in what we were raised in an immovable way impoverishes us. Because considering this bunch of terms a bunch of bullshit prevents us from engaging in conversations from which we would come out more shaken and a little more interesting as well. Not to mention those who have educated us in the classic values of patriarchy, in a feminism so decaffeinated and so skimmed that it was reduced to: “You, daughter, work to not depend on a man”.
A man who was what you expected. Because if you like women, meat and fish, we don’t even talk. They are dirty rags that are washed in other houses that are not ours. He will be a man with whom you will have children and you will do things as God commands. You will have to please that one, and only that one, in every way so that he does not leave with another.
The most expert feminists and adolescents in my house and other houses call this phallocentrism, which is a term that refers to to the privilege of the masculine in the construction of sexuality. And from there there is a very narrow path that leads us to coitocentrism, which is that everything revolves around a penis being inserted into the vagina. And if not, that is neither sex nor is it anything.
I heard talk about bodies that do not comply with the normative canon and about sexual dissidence
See how it’s never too late to learn?
In the act that Equality called on the morning of 8-M —yes, the one with the escrache to the minister— there were a lot of things that I did not understand. I heard talk of bodies that do not comply with the normative canon, of sexual dissidence, of identities. I learned that you can study to be a promoter of gender equality in educational centers. That what is taught in schools and institutes on sexual education continues to have a lot to do with the biological and with fear. That there are things that do not change, like theThe rule turns us into an orchard and that is why you have to avoid, above all else, unwanted pregnancies. As if all women sleep with men.
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I heard an adolescent claim “an integral sexuality for everyone” and to a forty-something like me to vindicate the desire in which they are mothers and grandmothers. If my mother had heard all this, she would have fainted. I, on the other hand, took it as homework to do as soon as I got home.
It’s all to feel a little smarter, maybe a little younger. And bring the teenager home. and whoever is left.
I don’t remember what we ate, but I do remember that the four of us were at home and it was a weekday. The television news talked about the trans law and adults, convinced of our modernity when it comes to educating on these and other issues, We thought it convenient to turn the news into a topic of conversation. It was then that her daughter, with her 15 years of life, decided to speak.
