In this world, our world, a song that breaks all reproduction records, was written and sung by a famous woman, wounded, hurt, in enormous pain, because the man she loved betrayed her and chose another woman to love. All my solidarity with her, I didn’t care if she was right or not. She gave me hope, illusion, “who said that all is lost” if someone comes to give her heart, great Fito. In these days of odes to individualism, consumption, every man for himself, etc. etc. And it made me happy that so many people in our world, almost certainly women, feel the same way I do, and listening to her was a way of embracing her, of showing her solidarity.
Until I heard his song, and I began to feel strange, bewildered, I didn’t understand what love or hate had to do with consumer objects, all very expensive. He doesn’t talk about that kiss, hug, shared moment, I don’t know, about all that precisely has a value that doesn’t enter the market. As Alain Badiou (French philosopher) says, love is an “event”, something that breaks or alters the conditions or circumstances in which a person lives. And he continues, “…love is a bet without guarantees, so if you love, bet. Pleasure and suffering are not relevant, what is definitive is that you are building a new reality. If you love, build it…”.
And when I heard her saying that now women “invoice” as if she were talking about a business, a commercial transaction, I went from my initial feeling of solidarity to anger, disappointment, sadness. And out of nowhere they appeared to me like a movie, that’s the way memory works, the verses by Mario Benedetti (Ustedes y Nosotros, 1973) “…us when we love / it’s easy to fix / with sheets how good / without sheets it doesn’t matter / you when they love / they calculate interest / and when they lose love / they calculate again….”
And it’s like that Madam, women Now, as always, if they betray us in love, we suffer of course, and at the same time we continue fighting so that they do not consider us a commodity, a thing, and we fight to build loving relationships in conditions of equity, freedom, respect, joyful.
The women Now, we also continue fighting to live in a more equitable, supportive, just world.
*CONICET researcher. Neuroscientist. Film director.