Many people are looking for the rare pearl on dating apps. This quest can turn into an infernal spiral. And the spontaneous dating encourages singles to get out of it by quickly going beyond the stage of virtual exchanges.
What is “spontaneous dating”?
This technique of seduction relies on spontaneity and letting go. It mainly concerns users of dating applications. The latter can be caught in the waves of profile environments that come their way. Some people spend hours scrolling through photos of potential partners, without really looking into them in depth, or even exchanging a few messages.
Spontaneous dating is a way to fight against these counter-productive attitudes when looking for love. This consists of establishing a short list of essential criteria that are expected from a partner. And if by exchanging a few messages we realize that he or she fulfills them: we schedule a meeting. “Being spontaneous allows you to be much more open to the idea of to meet someone, rather than mentally going through all your love requirements,” dating expert Emma Hathorn tells Stylist Uk. The specialist encourages users of dating applications to turn to this practice.
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Trust your first impression
If it is essential to get to know each other before meeting, dwelling on this phase can lead to over-analysis, according to the specialist. She also advises not to have too many expectations before a first date. And the less you talk virtually, the less you will get. For good reason, some individuals are more comfortable in writing than orally. In other words: it is not because you feel butterflies in your stomach while chatting by messages, that you will have a crush on meeting the person.
The reverse is also possible. An individual with whom you do not particularly hook virtually, can actually surprise you. This is why the expert invites singles to trust their first impression. If you like a profile and the attraction is mutual: meet.
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