A mom decided to return the pants she had bought in a supermarket. She was literally stunned when the cashier accepting the return embarrassed her, suggesting that she should “lose weight”. Many plus size women experience traumatic moments when they have to try on clothes and find their size in the store.

  • A mom bought mismatched jeans from her local supermarket
  • She decided to return them, but did not expect such a reaction from the saleswoman
  • She described her story on Mumsnet and asked if she should complain about the store employee in such a situation
  • Fat women avoid going shopping because they don’t want to feel judged and ridiculed for their weight
  • Many of them describe their experiences of fat shaming, which is weight shaming
  • You can read more of such stories on the main page of Onet.pl

Probably each of us has experienced such a situation at least once in our lives. The clothes in the shop fitting room (why are they most often pants ?!) fit us quite well, but after returning home and trying on again, it turned out to be too small or simply not fitting our figure. A woman decided to return the mismatched jeans to the store, but she did not expect such a reaction from the cashier.

“Her comment broke me”

“I smiled, handed the pants to the cashier and said,” Could I have my money back. Unfortunately, they don’t fit. “

The woman took my jeans, laughed and said: “You should lose weight then.”

“I chuckled in embarrassment and ran away as fast as I could. I was very, VERY nervous and I had a terrible weekend. I have borderline disorder, so I don’t know if my reaction was “normal” because I don’t always have “normal” reactions.

I’m 42, size 48, struggling with autoimmune disease (which doctors can’t explain) and menopause. I am trying to lose weight but at the moment it is failing. Her comment broke me, “the woman wrote.

My friends urge me to make a formal complaint. What do you think about it? “She asked in the forum.

Internauts’ reactions: “You should never comment on someone’s importance,”

Most of the people unanimously condemned the cashier’s behavior and decided that the woman should respond to her words.

“Complain and don’t be meek. Many years ago someone asked me why i never wear jeans. I replied that jeans were not available in my oversize size. She started laughing and then looked surprised when I burst into tears“- wrote one of the people.

“This is absolutely terrible and you should definitely complain. She may have thought she was ‘funny’ but you should never comment on someone’s weightwhether someone is slim or larger in size. This woman needs customer service training, and fast! “.

“It is absolutely necessary to complain. Even if it was a” joke “, it was wildly inappropriate. And for those who are wondering if there is any point in complaining, would you say the same thing if the remark was racist? Sexist? “What’s the tipping point? At the very least, the employee should be reminded that he should be courteous to the customers. Perhaps the employee should be working in a non-customer service role if he cannot keep his thoughts to himself,” commented another.

Fat shaming in clothing stores

According to the Los Angeles Times, the average American woman weighs 75 kg and wears a size 14, yet retailers treat her as an anomaly. Almost two-thirds (62%) of American women are considered overweight.

Plus size people’s experiences with clothing purchases are not the best. The clients emphasize that often they feel excluded and treated as “second-class citizens”, they feel uncomfortable, stressed, frustrated and demotivated.

Many plus size women experience traumatic moments when they have to try on clothes and find their size in stores. Not all those who work in the trade are understanding and polite. Fat women avoid going shopping because they don’t want to feel judged and ridiculed for their weight. That is why many of them shop online so as not to expose themselves to the unpleasantness of shopping in the store. This way, however, they lose the ability to see, touch or try on the goods in advance – and often have to return what they bought.

BuzzFeed asked users to share their traumatic experiences at clothing stores to shed light on howhow cruel shopkeepers and ordinary people can be. Here are some stories.

“In high school, I wanted to buy a prom dress in a small store in a mall. I took the dress and asked the saleswoman for a fitting room. She looked at me, took the dress out of my hands and said: »There is nothing in my shop that would suit you«. Then she asked me to leave. “

“I went to Victoria’s Secret for something to wear for my sixth anniversary with my fiancé. I couldn’t find anything in my size. So I asked one of the girls for help and she said: »Maybe if you lose a little weight, we’ll find something in your size!«. I left the store in tears. “

“I chose a nice dress from the hanger to look at it and offer it to my friend (whose size was the same) to try on. The manager of the boutique came up to me, took the dress, saying that I don’t want »any broken sliders« in your store. I never went back there again. “

That lookwhich appears when you enter a store that you know does not sell your size. A look like ‘who released this whale to the public’. When you shop with a ‘regular size’ friend, sellers always spot her first and look at her when I ask questions, even if she’s not the one buying something. We’re still being overlooked! “

“I hear:» are you sure this is what you want? «,» You know that someone with (insert fruit here) in silhouette shouldn’t wear this and that «,» oh, but we don’t have your size (not even knowing your size) «,» it doesn’t fit? But you can buy it if you lose weight! «Or when people look at you as an alien when you buy something (especially underwear or more revealing clothes). The horrible experience of measuring jeans that would fit your waist but not your thighs, or having to look for clothes your size and watching people walk past the store and just choose things. I don’t even start out shopping at sales, it’s so hard to find nice things in larger sizes. “

“Once upon a time I was buying jeans and the guy in the store helping me was very helpful and nice at first. The problem was that every pair I tried on was either too tight in the hips or too loose around the waist. get impatient and frustrated and he told me to try to buy jeans in countries like Brazil, »Where the girls are rounder and you would surely fit it«. I am Italian living in the Netherlands …. I asked him if he would pay for my ticket and left the store. “

As a result, big women buy less than they want because they are not finding enough attractive merchandise in stores, and sellers point to poor sales as evidence of low demand and are failing to supply. The circle is closed.

Have you had such experiences in the store? Or were you treated like that by the staff? Write to [email protected]

Sources:

mumsnet.com/buzzfeed.com

See also:

Fat shaming: fat people don’t have to live up to your expectations

They break the stereotype related to the body. “We work for the equality of fat people”

Iga Wiejak: when I lost weight, everyone applauded, and I wanted to die

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