Process accompanies us throughout our life, based on experiences and exchanges, in the search for an ideal ‘I’ that will never be achieved, but which is fundamental to move us
Perhaps one of the biggest human challenges is building a comfortable image of who we are and how people see us. But how does the construction of our self-image take place? Well, building who we are and our self-image is a process that accompanies us throughout our lives, based on our experiences and exchanges, in the search for an ideal ‘I’ that will never be achieved, but which is fundamental to move us. Our self-image goes through many changes in life and is basically shaped by the combination of the ideal of who we are, which makes us create a sense of identity, together with a continuous comparison with the other, that is, through a two-way street that affects both those who see, those who are being seen, and those who speak and those who listen.
It is obvious that how we build our self-image and how we feel about ourselves ultimately guides our actions throughout life. The more our actions are in accordance with what we like, the closer we are to what we are, but the more we produce an image close to what others expect, the greater the chance of getting frustrated and closing ourselves off from life experiences. In times of selfies and posts on social networks, the greater the chance of worrying about selling a different image than we are. There are many who waste precious time in life striving to show the best version of themselves and, most importantly, compromising their self-esteem when you lean to other people’s comments and measure your popularity by likes.
It is the human being that we care about the other’s opinion so that we can develop a social relationship, but when we waste too much time following each other’s lives and questioning about our inferiority, or when we need constant approval to feel good, this can become a problem. In this context, it is important to be in harmony with what we like to be and do and with the models we identify with that will give more shape and balance to our lives. Want to suggest a topic? Write to me: [email protected]