Sensory touch, a climate of relaxation: summer is the ideal season to practice massage. A nice way to get in touch with your children, your partner, as with your own body.
Do you have this reflex of kneading hot sand or brushing the surface of the sea with your fingers? “In summer, the body rediscovers a sensual vibration in contact with nature,” explains Christian Hiéronimus, human relations trainer and specialist in touch techniques. Awakened by the energies that flood him, he is both more active and more receptive. The ideal condition to learn about massage! Manual technique is not enough. You also have to listen to your feelings as well as those of the other. The heat is there, which promotes a release of body tensions. The sun galvanizes morale. Bare skin attracts, the eye naturally lands on a shoulder, back, legs. Undressing, fast, uninhibits. The holiday mood limits the attacks of stress. The mind is less parasitized by worries. It is a new look on oneself, on the other and on the world that can be posed in the long term. Because, on vacation, time passes slowly and the break in rhythm changes habits.
In the morning, before starting a walk, or after spreading your towel on the beach, take advantage of the application of the sunscreen product to indulge in the massage. Ideally, choose one that evokes travel, elsewhere, exoticism. “Give preference to gourmet or sunny scents such as monoi: coconut, vanilla, tiare flower… These protective oils nourish, hydrate and, with their“ holiday ”connotation, sometimes have a side of Proust madeleine”, advises Galya Ortega, care practitioner holistic. Avoid the early afternoon, the time of digestion and peak heat, and reserve essential oils, often photosensitizing, for after the evening shower or before going out to dinner. With practice, the hand becomes more intuitive. And the body ends up claiming it!
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Massage your child
As a way of saying “I love you” to him, this individual attention values him and secures him. And strengthens his self-esteem. This tactile contact will help him feel more comfortable with his body and develop his ability to focus and listen to his sensations. Childhood is a period when emotions are structured on the energetic level.
The right technique : opt for precise but measured support. He will discover the softness of the effleurage later! “The touch must remain sufficiently distanced – it is not a question of a hug – so that the child does not regress in a too fusional pattern”, specifies Christian Hieronimus. Target neutral areas: legs and feet, which are activated during the day, or back, shoulders and neck, subject to wearing a backpack while hiking. Do not rely on an age criterion: each child develops at his own pace and he knows how to tell you whether or not he wants to be massaged. Why not introduce a playful dimension? Name the gestures or encourage them to reproduce them on their teddy bear. The session can last two minutes or a quarter of an hour: a child who has had enough says so or gets up to play! Always heed his comments.
An exercise : shoulder and head massage to chase fatigue. With your right palm, draw a large circle four times around his right shoulder blade. Then around to the left. Place one hand on the top of his chest and, with the flat of the other, vigorously rub in small zigzags the upper back, shoulders and arms up to the level of the short sleeves. Pat your entire arm, hands flat, back and forth several times from your shoulders to your fingers. To finish, gently massage her scalp from front to back. And, with your fingertips, gently drum all over her head, shoulders and neck.
To read to get started: Children’s massage by Mary Atkinson (Le Courrier du livre, 2009).
Massage a love, a friend
A way of talking to each other other than by touching a computer or mobile phone keyboard! Within a couple, this non-verbal communication leads eroticism towards an enriching sensory dimension. With a friend or your mother, you practice the art of massage while strengthening the bonds. “A loved one who allows you to touch it always sends a message:“ I trust you ”,“ Your gaze is positive for me ”,“ You can understand me ”,” says Christian Hieronimus.
The right technique : heavy maneuvers or large, slow movements. Avoid touching, too suggestive, and erogenous zones (chest, stomach, etc.). Don’t commit to a length of time. Five minutes or three quarters of an hour, the important thing is to avoid any feeling of intrusion in the other: wait for him to say “yes” after having offered to massage him (even if it is your partner) and ask if the pressure and pace are right. In general, his breathing sets the tempo. If he shivers or squeezes his thighs, change zones or end the session gradually, slowing down your own breathing rate to calm him down. Be careful, chatting during the session can take him away from his feelings. At the end, settle for one question: “Was it for you?” The answer will be long or terse. Do not insist.
The Art of Touch by Christian Hiéronimus. A specialist in massage techniques offers us a reflection on the relationship to the heart of touch (Lanore, “Poche”, 2007).
Massages and oriental traditions by Galya Ortega and Jean-Louis Poiroux. An illustrated guide, accompanied by a DVD, to discover traditional recipes for the beauty of the body and oriental massage techniques (Aubanel, 2010).
An exercise : kneading of the back to rebalance the energies. Oil your hands abundantly and place them gently on the shoulder blades. Slowly but firmly, move your two hands back and forth together or alternately, describing swirls, circles, fluid glides. Move them from the hips to the shoulders, insisting on knotted areas. Then, draw waves between each vertebra with your thumbs, going up from the sacrum to the cervicals. Repeat two passages by applying fixed pressure, first near the vertebrae, then a few centimeters from the spine. Palms flat, go up the first time by crossing the left hand and right hand from the lower back, and a second time from the center. Finally, place one hand on the sacrum and the other on the back of the neck. And rock slowly.
To read to get started: Daily massage by Galya Ortega (2nd Edition, 2010).
Exploring your body as a curious tourist allows you to discover its geography: its reliefs, its forgotten corners, its hot or cold areas, but also its history, its painful parts or its emotional areas. It is also a way of feeling existing. “Seeing is not enough to ensure reality, only touch has this privilege,” recalls anthropologist David Le Breton in The Flavor of the World (Métailié, 2006).
The right technique : do-in, shiatsu or foot reflexology, discreet in public. Otherwise, finish a facial treatment with a shiatsu or massage your stomach, legs and arms by applying a moisturizer after the shower.
An exercise : facial self-massage to regenerate the body. With your fingertips, rub your forehead vertically, between the eyebrows and the scalp, then smooth it two to three times from the center to the temples in a slow, supported motion. Using both hands, gently pinch one eyebrow at a time along its length, four or five times. Sand in small circles the temples then the chin by joining index and middle finger. Pinch your ear: stretch the pinna upwards, the earlobe downwards. Massage its convolutions. Rub it by passing the index finger behind and the other fingers in front (in scissors). You can smooth your forehead outward again, and with your hands flat on your cheeks, gently lift them from the chin to the temples.
To read to get started: Do-In, a relaxing self-massage by Jean-Louis Abrassart (Ellébore, 2005).